Many couples do not come to therapy for support until the relationship is in distress, it is a huge step as it usually means admitting that things are not going well. There are so many pressures on relationships today, life is getting busier and we are finding it difficult to communicate. Often by the time a couple gets to therapy they are in crises. All relationships change over time, we can often fall in and out of love with our partner, this sometimes is a real cause of fear in a couple. The sooner a couple can get support the sooner they learn to communicate better. I will usually see the couple together first and then meet each person individually to get a deeper sense of the individuals relationship and attachment patterns. Together we will lower the stress and fears and work on communicating effectively, making it more obtainable to reach your goal as a couple. I also work with couples and throuples who are non-cis, non-monogamous and non- hetronormative.
Most of the issues I work with in couple’s therapy include: